A Guide to Pedophilia – WTF?

A Pedophile's Code of Conduct

When you think of pedophiles, do you not sneer in disgust? Do you wonder in complete astonishment how someone could be capable of such a heinous act? Are you not mortified that any other human, with an operable brain and soul like yours, could in any way perform such activities? Even a psychologist or psychiatrist, while coming off as understanding and willing to discuss the problem with a patient, has some level of disgust for the behavior. They are trying to understand the basis of the person’s behavior and deeply seated roots leading to their actions in order to treat their “disorder” and provide therapy to avoid repeats. Society, as a whole, view pedophiles as something vile in nature and never socially acceptable.

So why on earth has a man opted to write a book on the topic, seemingly in defense of the perpetrators ruining childhoods left and right? Phillip R. Greaves II is the author of a newly self-published book titled, The Pedophile’s Guide to Love and Pleasure: A Child-Lover’s Code of Conduct. That’s right. Practically a how-to guide on being an appropriate pedophile and maintaining a code of conduct. I read multiple articles that raided the internet’s audience minutes upon discovery. According to Greaves, this book is no way meant to encourage pedophilia but rather to “fix” the horribly twisted and negative image in which the media portrays pedophiles. I’m sorry. Were we supposed to glorify these creatures?

Greaves product description of the book is, “This is my attempt to make pedophile situations safer for those juveniles that find themselves involved in them, by establishing certian rules for these adults to follow. I hope to achieve this by appealing to the better nature of pedosexuals, with the hope that their doing so will result in less hatred and perhaps lighter sentences should they ever be caught.” So, instead of continuing to fight the pedophile rates throughout the world, the man has opted to instead provide a list of rules for pedophiles to follow. This brings a new meaning to the idea of if you can’t beat them, join them. Now, Greaves declares that he himself is not a pedophile. However, he did admit to having sexual contact with a child as a teenager and being introduced to the concept of oral sex at the age of seven by an older woman. So he’s had a small run in being a victim/perpetrator.

But still, while maybe his heart is in the right place, it’s a fucked up concept. I mean, he’s quoted to having said “True pedophiles love children and would never hurt them…” but then saying that in his guidelines he insists, “Penetration is out. You can’t do that with a child, but kissing and fondling I don’t think is that big of a problem…” Now, I’m not a mother (Heavens be praised) but I have been a nanny and a babysitter for over half of my young life and even I know, there is a problem with fondling a child. You do not fondle children. Parents kiss children on the cheek, some on the lips. Friends kiss friends on the cheek. Some of the kids I babysat demanded a kiss on the cheek when the parents came home and I would leave. But never once did the idea of pedophilia cross my mind. In fact, while babysitting said children, the concept of the frailty and innocence of a child was only strengthened in my mind. How could one calmly and sanely encourage another to cross and destroy a child’s sense of innocence before they even enter the real world?

And as fucked up as this is, sales of this book on Amazon have skyrocketed over 101,000% in less than a day. I’m not sure if it’s because people are wanting to truly investigate what all the fuss is about or if have the consumers who own Kindles are pedophiles. Either way, I will not be purchasing this book. I won’t go so far as to boycott Amazon but I am disgusted at the fact that this type of information is available to the general public. Freedom of speech be damned, this is encouragement to the destruction of future generations.


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One thought on “A Guide to Pedophilia – WTF?

  1. Sometimes the pedophile ends up dead…that story’s available on Amazon too.

    My name is Keith Smith. I was abducted, beaten and raped by a stranger. It wasn’t a neighbor, a coach, a relative, a family friend or teacher. It was a recidivist pedophile predator who spent time in prison for previous sex crimes; an animal hunting for victims in the quiet, bucolic, suburban neighborhoods of Lincoln, Rhode Island.

    I was able to identify the guy and the car he was driving. Although he was arrested that night and indicted a few months later, he never went to trial. His trial never took place because he was brutally beaten to death in Providence before his court date. 34 years later, no one has ever been charged with the crime.

    In the time between the night of my assault and the night he was murdered, I lived in fear. I was afraid he was still around town. Afraid he was looking for me. Afraid he would track me down and kill me. The fear didn’t go away when he was murdered. Although he was no longer a threat, the simple life and innocence of a 14-year-old boy was gone forever. Carefree childhood thoughts replaced with the unrelenting realization that my world wasn’t a safe place. My peace shattered by a horrific criminal act of sexual violence.

    Over the past 34 years, I’ve been haunted by horrible, recurring memories of what he did to me. He visits me in my sleep. There have been dreams–nightmares actually–dozens of them, sweat inducing, yelling-in-my-sleep nightmares filled with images and emotions as real as they were when it actually happened. It doesn’t get easier over time. Long dead, he still visits me, silently sneaking up from out of nowhere when I least expect it. From the grave, he sits beside me on the couch every time the evening news reports a child abduction or sex crime. I don’t watch America’s Most Wanted or Law and Order SVU, because the stories are a catalyst, triggering long suppressed memories and emotions of fear and horror. Real life horror stories rip painful suppressed memories out from where they hide, from that recessed place in my brain that stores dark, dangerous, horrible memories. It happened when William Bonin confessed to abducting, raping and murdering 14 boys in California; when Jesse Timmendequas raped and murdered Megan Kanka in New Jersey; when Ben Ownby, missing for four days, and Shawn Hornbeck, missing for four years, were recovered in Missouri.

    Despite what happened that night and the constant reminders that continue to haunt me years later, I wouldn’t change what happened. The animal that attacked me was a serial predator, a violent pedophile trolling my neighborhood in Lincoln, Rhode Island looking for young boys. He beat me, raped me, and I stayed alive. I lived to see him arrested, indicted and murdered. It might not have turned out this way if he had grabbed one of my friends or another kid from my neighborhood. Perhaps he’d still be alive. Perhaps there would be dozens of more victims and perhaps he would have progressed to the point of silencing his victims by murdering them.

    Out of fear, shame and guilt, I’ve been silent for over three decades, sharing with very few people the story of what happened to me. No more. The silence has to end. The fear, the shame, the guilt have to go. It’s time to stop keeping this secret from the people closest to me, people I care about, people I love, my long-time friends and my family. It’s time to speak out to raise public awareness of male sexual assault, to let other victims know that they’re not alone and to help victims of rape and violent crime understand that the emotion, fear and memories that may still haunt them are not uncommon to those of us who have shared a similar experience. For those who suffer in silence, I hope my story brings some comfort, strength, peace and hope.

    Men in My Town is the story of my abduction, beating and rape and the unsolved brutal murder of the man who attacked me.

    Men in My Town by Keith Smith, available now at Amazon.com

    For additional information visit http://www.meninmytown.wordpress.com or http://www.linkedin.com/in/meninmytown

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